Lost & Found !

There is a saying that a friend is there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

How some people I thought I would forever be closely connected to have drifted so far out of my life that I know almost nothing about them.  That people I thought would be interested in me & my child’s lives just aren’t at all and how others that I barely know seem deeply interested in the well being of me and my family. This is all what i have started thinking lately.... about how life changes and how deeply a relationship evolves or evaporates.

I have been thinking a lot lately about the wonderful new relationships I have formed.  I have met women I didn’t realize could honestly exist.  I have met strong women who will cheer for other women.  Women who will congratulate you when you accomplish something you are proud of and those same women will wholeheartedly listen when you feel like your world is about to unravel.  I have met women who joke and laugh about one another but aren’t mean and nasty. These women are not of same age.... some are old granny's.... the other are mom of young grown up kids... few of my age even... they are for reason.... you are just blessed to be with them..

I have realized that the amount of time you know person doesn’t equal the amount of loyalty and love you get from that person.  If someone cares about you then they are never too busy to reach out, weeks turn to months that turn to years and then you don’t even know where to pick up from there.I have decided that if you aren’t present it’s not ok.  If you don’t make the effort eventually I won’t either.... they are like seasons...

I think it’s as I am getting older that I am realizing what I do and don’t have time for.  I used to feel hurt and slighted when I felt old connections weren’t reaching out or making efforts but now I feel more relieved.  I feel able to move on to positive. I make new friends.... eventually i don't forget the old ones who are stuck with me...it's not easy to forget them...there are tears, followed by little sadness and sometimes just a deep feeling of loneliness..... but moving on is life.... one has to move on..either you have anybody on your sides or not.. life goes on.... still there would be one or two of them whom u don't see.. neither talk.. still u are connected.. when you meet/talk..it seems a house on fire..... that's relation for lifetime.... Anyone of you experienced the same thing?? 

Till next time..
Tk cr.. Hv fn. :)

Please Don't-call-me Supermom !!!

I am a (mostly) hustling, STAY-AT-HOME, prepare breakfast..give baby bath..send hubby to office..do the household chore.. make lunch..do laundry..go for grocery shopping..take baby to park..make dinner..Confused?? Are we just stay-at-home moms?? Aren't we career oriented?? But what.. a baby there n your life changes..we want to take that extra care n leave our career behind(esp nuclear family... those who stay with there in-laws still have option to leave behind there kid n go for work or do there job).. And those who do the both aren't supermoms....No one is..

I sometimes wake up early to do the household chore..but more often who cares about the home...wake-hubby-up-for-that-extra-personal-time-till-the-baby-is-asleep...I am not meal planning, i want to go out on date (of,course with my hubby).

I ran for 6 rounds in the park...four months ago(just for five days)... I never did a juice fast..but i want to do one..I eat chocolates n french fries without cribbing for fats.

I am sensory-toy-making, laptop babysitting(getting all ideas from internet), juice making, french fries/chocolate in the car so he will stop screaming ..n let me drive & do what i got to do.

But I'm not supermom, because that woman doesn't exist..atleast not all the time...even i want some peace in my ears..want to spend some time alone doing nothing at all..

Whether we DIY-ed a sensory toy for our kid or got him a new one from market..it's a same thing..till they sit n play n let us do our work..All babies are alive and well entertained...n they grow up..Every individual house is taken care properly..nobody can stay in a messy home.. So instead of expecting each other to be individual supermoms why don't we just band together...and help each other instead of judging...That would be SUPER

Motivation when i feel Low ..!

Hey everyone... going mad these days...handling & entertaining a 20+ month toddler is no child's play......n top of that..what if Mr. Hubby is too busy with his works(leaves early morning n comes late night :( ).. ..uff..and your household help takes leave for someday......what....YES u get irritated..frustrated...n off mood... this is what its happening with me....so..wanted to take that frustration out... but writing all wrong n blah blah stuff fouls me more.... in order i took another turn n wrote out these ways....to move away from frustration n enjoy myself....

Go for a walk. Somehow, getting outside and moving around can totally change my mood and perspective. In evening i walk with my baby....but if that doesn't walk out i take a late night walk when Mr. Hubby comes in....Quite often when I come back  i feel light...i get the solution to my problems.... 

Write it out. Writing about what was on my mind helped get it off my chest. It doesn’t matter if you are a writer or not – just start scribbling whatever races through your mind, it doesn’t have to make sense.Take that dairy or letter pad out.... n scribble it..

Listen to music. Nothing turns my mood around like a little song and dance...when my baby plays his drums or any other musical instrument...instead of stopping him i dance..

Drink some water. Over the last few weeks I’ve been experimenting with drinking water/instant lemonade/iced tea whenever I feel a little down or tired and have seen a huge shift in my energy level. Sometimes we are just dehydrated and our body needs a pick me up....This actually works..

Clean your Wardrobe (or any surface). The act of clearing out make your mind feel at ease. I like to clear off my centre table and then just sit there for a few minutes and take it all in.

Get out of the pyjamas. Dress better, feel better – it’s simple. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your mood is get up, get showered, and dress up for no reason at all. ;)

Make a Good List. If you actually take the time to recognize all the awesome-ness in your life it’s hard to feel down. Count them...whatever little u did for anyone...praise yourself n feel happy..it's really motivating. 

Make somebody Happy. Want to feel better, give a little. Who doesn’t feel better after giving few biscuits to people near Temple.... see them opening the packet n eat them, enjoy the good feeling..

Cry it out. Yes it works...this is not for every time...but once in a while you need to clean your heart by taking it all out... but not for a long time...just a sweet break of 15-20 minutes ;)

Give yourself a treat. This is a total band-aid solution, I’ll go buy myself a latte, or a cupcake....If this doesn't work..i just indulge on some shopping spree....but mind it..not always...  Just a little treat to get me going! 

U tell me what do you do??? How do u manage your foul mood??
Would like to hear from u also...leave ur comments below..
Hope this list works out for u also.  :)

Letter !

Dear mom,
                 Like every normal girl, I was excited about marriage right from my childhood days... I never thought beyond the time I would spend happily with my prince charming... But today when I am married, I realize that marriage is not all roses. It's not just about being with your beloved and having gala time. There is so much more to it. It comes with its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices and compromises. I can't wake up anytime i want to. I am expected to be up and ready before everyone else in the family. I can't laze around in pyjamas throughout the day. I am expected to be presentable every time. I just can't go out anytime i want to. I am expected to be sensitive to the needs of the family. I just can't hit the bed anytime i want to.I am expected to be active and around the family. I can't expect to be treated like a princess but am supposed to take care of everyone else in the family....and then i think to myself, 'why did i get married at all?' I was happier with you, mom. Sometimes i think of coming back to you and getting pampered again. I want to come home to my favorite food cooked by you every evening after a nice outing with friends. I want to sleep on your laps like I have no worry in this world. But then I suddenly realize, had you not got married and made such sacrifices in your life, I wouldn't have had so many wonderful memories to hang on to. And suddenly, the purpose of all this becomes clear- to return the same comfort, peace and happiness to my new family that I got from you. And I am sure that as time would pass, I would start loving this life equally as you do. Thank you mom for all the sacrifices and compromises you made. They give me the strength to do the same.
Love you.

Expectation !!

“If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed.” 
― Sylvia Plath

Is this possible?? How can we not expect anything from anybody??

It's human nature to expect .. !!

From the very 1st day of our life(when a mother come to know she is pregnant) when we are inside mother's womb(expected to grow properly, to kick)...expectation starts with this only..till we finish off our life..when we are pissed off we ask God if he gives us death early... we are expecting this from Him..then n then.. so expectation never ends ..everybody expect from each other.. parents from their children... expect to do good in studies, competitive classes, extra-curricular activities, in their job... n it goes on.....on on n on..!!    Husband expect from wife n wife too expect from his husband... expectation levels are different but they EXPECT something(or i would say many thing ;) ) from each other(wife expects gifts on b'day n anniversary whereas husband expect some peaceful time on holiday) ...same thing for every relationship... brother-sister, with in-laws, boss- employee, with colleague, with friends, relatives.....we expect them to phone call us, to come n meet us..n lets not laugh we also expect them to like our status n pictures on social networking sites... to do this n that n same thing is expected from us back.......we try to do what other expect us to do......n what if one fails for the expectation level of other.... Actual problem starts...they argue...they fight.. have ego problems....& they are disappointed..!!

Ahh.. too much...isn't it.. but you also agree..don't u..u also expect lot of things from other as other expect from  u too......i know....even u expect me to write/share something sensible :).. 
haha..
Anyways .... have a nice weekend
Till next time...
Hv fn... tk cr :)

                                         & don't EXPECT much :)

Invisible Bond !!

     

                                                                                                                        pic courtesy-google

Hey... Did u ever feel any invisible bond when u meet someone for the very first time??  Did that any day happened to you?? I think it happens !! You just talk to each other, without any certain relationship, without any expectation..and u just become great friends... companion ... the sparks in the eyes shows..even in the fellow person.!! You want to meet again n again.. talk your heart out .... can spend the hours talking without knowing what the future holds..... this is the Invisible Bond.. which just happens..!


OK. lots of philosophy...now let's talk something sensible ;)
...actually i have made some great n awesome friends while travelling...shopping...even while my evening walk ;) and then we became friends...may b we were destined for that.!! its easy to talk to stranger.. and once u have a baby.. i would say its too easy to talk to stranger ...did something like this ever happened with u... did u ever met a stranger n had that invisible bond??? Would like know ..do write in..share ur experience...
Till next time....
Hv fn..tk cr..  :)

Simple Chase !

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There are many things we chase in life. Some chase money, some chase fame, some chase the perfect body, some even chase the all elusive happiness. There most certainly is one chase, however, that binds all humanity and that is the quest for the perfect “match”. The one person in the entire Universe who is responsible for our well being, whose world revolves around us, who is totally and wholly responsible for making us feel like we are not alone in this world.

 In every other chase, we run alone. But in this one, we have an entire team – parents, friends of parents, friends, parents of friends, uncles, aunts and neighbours, running alongside us, cheering for us right until we find that “soulmate” or until they perceive us to be way over the hill to find one.

You all might be thinking what i am talking about....yes i m talking about "MARRIAGE".Actually one of my cousin B-I-L got engaged today...and this was all happening with him from the last 4-5 yrs, n finally today he gets his "soulmate"

Hope you enjoyed reading ..
Till next time....
Hv fun...Tk..cr..